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Wednesday, October 22, 2014

WHY YOU WORKING SO HARD THOUGH? ?

You be working so hard and am not even talking about your hustle to get through the day, to go to school or to put some food on the table.am talking about you that wants a man so bad you stress
yourself with making it work , you don't have a job or education but you wake up early and sleep late just because you want your relationship back so bad. You ask about his day. He asks you to fix dinner, you ask what you can do to win his love. He tells you he's going to be out late with the hommies, you ask what plans he has for the holiday. .this dude already has a flight booked for two to Hawaii and its not your name on it.
 
 
Not once does this man ask about your life, if you're okay, where you want to go, if you're happy, he has no opinions or inputs whatsoever, dude cannot even notice that you changed your hairdo last Friday and you refuse to read in between the lines thinking in your head.."but he's my soul mate though..".
 
 
 
 
 
Don't fool yourself thinking there's a soul mate for you and because of that you stay in bullshit relationship, trying to be the all time perfect woman who perseveres just because you want love so bad. You work so hard trying to get him on the same page as you and you forget that love is a team effort. A man meets a woman half way, not a few steps, not some but all that remaining way!
I am not a relationship expert but what I do know is that couples bicker a lot, argue and disagree not out of anger but because they aren't willing to challenge each other.
Be ready to tell yourself the truth, don't be smiling and biting your lips  at every damn thing he says pretending to be astonished even when you know that he has just said
 the dumbest thing because you're afraid to disagree with him, you're afraid to show that you have a different thought and even a better one, you cant even talk about real issues ...then how are you really getting to know each other?

 
 
 
In the beginning he  would take you everywhere, read all those novels with you, pick you up after work, drop surprise flowers on the dining table, spoil you with gifts..now he telling you how he just wants to stay home with you and cuddle up..there you go  sitting up with him on the bed ,making small talks in between sex rounds and you thinks thats bonding?  You just waiting for the next erection thats all.
 
 
 
 
 
 
when a person loves you its doesn't matter if you got 5cents or a bicycle you go out and explore the damn world together. you're always putting up fronts, pretending like its all good and rosy, if you feel like you're in a cage within yourself then you're not in a relationship, you in a situation.!